Tag Archives: relationships

Mar21

The Art of Building Relationships 2.0: The Human Touch

building relationships

Back in December, I created a post about the art of building authentic relationships and moving away from just “networking.” As any blog post, the topic evolves and from a conversation with my good friend/kindred sister, “The Art of Building Relationships 2.0: The Human Touch” was born.

We understand that building relationships based on shared interests and values are far more important than networking (seeking the benefits). However, in our “always on” and connected world many of us believe relationships can be built over social media, texts, Skype chats and more. Technology is a great way to connect and communicate, but relationships should be enhanced through face to face interaction.

Lunch Meetings

Lunch meetings are a great way to have face to face interaction, talk business and connect based on similarities. Schedule lunch meetings during your lunchtime (if you can) or even on the weekends. I have built many relationships, in and out of my industry, over good lunch or even coffee. Remember, lunch meetings create a shared experience and you are not tied to a lofty meeting agenda like you would be if you met in the office.

Here are some of my favorite spots for lunch meetings and catch-ups:

Republic (Union Square)
Vapiano (Union Square)
Argo Tea

Attend Other Industry Events

If you’re in tech and digital, you don’t always have to attend tech and digital events. Again, relationships are fostered out of shared interests and values. If you love film, head out to different film festivals and conferences. If you are a digital professional who is health conscious, go to a health meet-up in your city. Whatever event, conference or seminar you attend, you are bound to build a relationship with someone with similar passions.

Get off the Internet. Go on an Adventure.

Yes, twitter chats, online meetups and interactive webinars are a great way to meet new people. But how can a real relationship be built if both parties are hidden behind their computer, laptop or tablet? Get off the Internet and go on an adventure. Take that online meet-up offline and meet for a day hike, trust building activities or even a scavenger hunt.

What are some other ways to build authentic relationships from human to human interaction?

Dec19

The Art of Building Relationships

Networking

“Networking” has become just a buzzword and we have lost sight of what is really behind networking – relationships. We have forgotten that your network isn’t the goal, but yet the relationship. My various encounters over the past few weeks has inspired this post to encourage others to go beyond the benefits and build lasting relationships.

Forget the network. Remember the relationship.

People often dive into networking thinking, how can this individual benefit me? That sort of thinking ruins the relationship immediately and inevitably destroys the network. Just recently I was approached at a holiday event and charity drive by a woman who immediately asked “where do you work?” There was no proper greeting, no introduction or even an exchange of smiles. I immediately lost interest in the possibility of a relationship being formed. I properly greeted her, told her my name, what I do, asked for hers and then politely walked away.

For some, approaching people may not be the easiest task. Food for thought – if you forget the network (the benefits for you) and just focus on genuinely getting to know the person, the approach will be that much easier. This leads to my next point…

Shared interests and values

To build a relationship, you must understand each other’s interests and values. More than likely you will share a similar interest with the person you are trying to connect with. To get to know what that interest might be, you have to be personable and authentic. Authenticity and even transparency (no that does not mean you have to bear everything on the table) will make the conversation easier.

The follow up

Follow up with the person that you share interests and values. Your follow up should consist of more than “it was a pleasure meeting you!” If through email or a personal hand written note, let them know why it was so great meeting them and always provide a call to action – maybe a follow up lunch or coffee to continue the conversation. The follow up will be the beginning of building an actual relationship, which will be more beneficial to your network.