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The Art of Building Relationships 2.0: The Human Touch

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Back in December, I created a post about the art of building authentic relationships and moving away from just “networking.” As any blog post, the topic evolves and from a conversation with my good friend/kindred sister, “The Art of Building Relationships 2.0: The Human Touch” was born.

We understand that building relationships based on shared interests and values are far more important than networking (seeking the benefits). However, in our “always on” and connected world many of us believe relationships can be built over social media, texts, Skype chats and more. Technology is a great way to connect and communicate, but relationships should be enhanced through face to face interaction.

Lunch Meetings

Lunch meetings are a great way to have face to face interaction, talk business and connect based on similarities. Schedule lunch meetings during your lunchtime (if you can) or even on the weekends. I have built many relationships, in and out of my industry, over good lunch or even coffee. Remember, lunch meetings create a shared experience and you are not tied to a lofty meeting agenda like you would be if you met in the office.

Here are some of my favorite spots for lunch meetings and catch-ups:

Republic (Union Square)
Vapiano (Union Square)
Argo Tea

Attend Other Industry Events

If you’re in tech and digital, you don’t always have to attend tech and digital events. Again, relationships are fostered out of shared interests and values. If you love film, head out to different film festivals and conferences. If you are a digital professional who is health conscious, go to a health meet-up in your city. Whatever event, conference or seminar you attend, you are bound to build a relationship with someone with similar passions.

Get off the Internet. Go on an Adventure.

Yes, twitter chats, online meetups and interactive webinars are a great way to meet new people. But how can a real relationship be built if both parties are hidden behind their computer, laptop or tablet? Get off the Internet and go on an adventure. Take that online meet-up offline and meet for a day hike, trust building activities or even a scavenger hunt.

What are some other ways to build authentic relationships from human to human interaction?


The Art of Building Relationships


“Networking” has become just a buzzword and we have lost sight of what is really behind networking – relationships. We have forgotten that your network isn’t the goal, but yet the relationship. My various encounters over the past few weeks has inspired this post to encourage others to go beyond the benefits and build lasting relationships.

Forget the network. Remember the relationship.

People often dive into networking thinking, how can this individual benefit me? That sort of thinking ruins the relationship immediately and inevitably destroys the network. Just recently I was approached at a holiday event and charity drive by a woman who immediately asked “where do you work?” There was no proper greeting, no introduction or even an exchange of smiles. I immediately lost interest in the possibility of a relationship being formed. I properly greeted her, told her my name, what I do, asked for hers and then politely walked away.

For some, approaching people may not be the easiest task. Food for thought – if you forget the network (the benefits for you) and just focus on genuinely getting to know the person, the approach will be that much easier. This leads to my next point…

Shared interests and values

To build a relationship, you must understand each other’s interests and values. More than likely you will share a similar interest with the person you are trying to connect with. To get to know what that interest might be, you have to be personable and authentic. Authenticity and even transparency (no that does not mean you have to bear everything on the table) will make the conversation easier.

The follow up

Follow up with the person that you share interests and values. Your follow up should consist of more than “it was a pleasure meeting you!” If through email or a personal hand written note, let them know why it was so great meeting them and always provide a call to action – maybe a follow up lunch or coffee to continue the conversation. The follow up will be the beginning of building an actual relationship, which will be more beneficial to your network. 


The Social Media Job Search

Photo by Jason A. Howie

Photo by Jason A. Howie

We live in a world where you can find everything online—directions, old friends, the latest trends, you name it. So why not use it to find a job?

Social media platforms are perfect for it. Networking with industry professionals, showcasing your skills, and giving a taste of your personality, all in one place. Here are a few tips to make the most of your online experience when you’re on the job hunt.

  • Go beyond just looking on generic job postings sites. Yes, they are a good starting point, but there is so much more out there. Get exploring!
  • Be active. The more you engage online, the better you’ll get and the easier it will become. One of the keys to mastering social media is consistency. Building up your online presence takes time, but it’s well worth it.
  • Participate in Twitter chats. Twitter is one of the quickest and easiest ways to directly get in touch with some of the biggest names in whatever industry you’re hoping to get into. You’re able to start up conversations with people all over the globe and you never know where you could end up with a simple tweet. On top of all that, be sure to follow hashtags that relate to your field and keep your eye out for opportunities.
  • Join groups on LinkedIn to connect with people in different industries and have an idea of some of the companies you want to work for. Everyone is getting on LinkedIn (if you haven’t, do it now). Put some time into making your profile the best it can be. First impressions are everything and you want to grab a potential employer’s attention. Recruiters are always using sites like LinkedIn to find what they’re looking for.
  • Clean up your Facebook profiles. It’s pretty self-explanatory, but you’d be surprised at what can be found sometimes. You’ll be glad you did it.

Social media is all about communication, so use it wisely and take advantage of all the tools you have access to. You never know who might stumble upon your profile and think you’re the perfect fit for a job. It’s worth a shot!


Career Tips From a Student to a Student

7658261288_c10e49f50f_oSo you just graduated high school and are about to embark on the journey that is post secondary education. Excited? Nervous? Worried? That’s natural. Wait until you get to your senior year and about to enter the real world—yeah, now that’s scary.

I always wish I had someone older and wiser during my first year of university to send me in the right direction, but I was on my own to learn the ropes. So here I am, a little older and wiser, and I thought I’d share some of the things I’ve learned along the way.

Start early

Before you know it, you’ll be halfway through your undergrad and realize that you only have a couple more years to go. And it will fly by, I guarantee you. Put in the effort early and volunteer/intern as much as possible. Any contacts you make right off the bat are great and your network can only grow from there. Also, make the most of all the opportunities that come with campus life. Check job postings, bulletin boards, newspapers, everything—it never hurts to try! Get out there and take initiative.

Network, network, network

It’s always about who you know, in any industry. Start with your fellow classmates and people on campus. As a student, you have the luxury of being surrounded by so many talented people and who knows, any one of them could be the next Bill Gates. It’s also important to attend industry mixers, career events and anything else that relates to your field of interest. And once you’re there, don’t be shy to introduce yourself. By the end of your university experience, you want to have a solid bank of contacts that you can reach out to.

Get on social media

This does not mean you always need to be Instagramming your food or tweeting about the annoying person sitting next to you, think of social media as a platform for marketing yourself as a brand. Employers want to see what you have to offer and what better way than an online destination where they can get the best sense of you on a professional, and personal, level. It’s becoming more and more common to come across great job opportunities and career leads on social media sites.
Another way to use the digital tools to your full advantage is to start a blog. This is the easiest way to get your work out there and published for the world to see.

Positivity is key

There is absolutely no benefit of being a Debby-Downer when you’re going through your university experience. Yes, it can be stressful, but don’t let it get to you. Employers will take notice if you are always the one with a great attitude and are pleasant to be around. Why would anyone hire someone that sucks the life out of a room? Don’t be that person.

Surround yourself with the right people.

There’s a theory that you’re a reflection of the five of your closest friends and I agree 100 per cent. Even more than five people, I think the people around you play a crucial part in the type of path you end up on. If you have lazy, unmotivated people around you, they can—and will—get in the way of your success. Try to find like-minded people who can help you, rather than hinder your progress. Collaborate and grow rather than compromise and feel stuck. Once you have that core group of people who have similar goals and work-ethics, you can only go up from there.

I hope these tips will come in handy during your own university experience—Good luck!


How Do You Network?

Image courtesy of: Samuel Mann

How Do You Network?

1. Be clear about your expertise and the resource you can be for others.

2. Be vulnerable and willing to ask for help.

3. Become a team player.

4. Accept and express appreciation of the support and contributions of others.

5. Develop short and long-term goals. Revise them regularly.

6. Organize a list of who is currently in your network.

7. Portray professionalism through your actions and presentation.

8. Introduce yourself in a way that is clear, concise, and personable. This will generate interest.

9. Reintroduce yourself to people rather than waiting for them to remember you.

10. Focus on people as they are introduced so that you remember their name and who they are.

11. Become comfortable creating visibility for you.

12. Give business cards out only after rapport has been developed.

13. Make notations about the person and the conversation you had on business cards you receive for follow-up conversations.

14. Nurture your network with calls, notes and gifts when appropriate.

15. Prepare before attending networking events by practicing introduction and researching what topics of interests will be discussed at the event.

16. Decide what organizational method you will use to store your network contacts (e.g., iPhone, Blackberry, Gmail, Outlook address book).

17. Return phone calls to people in your network within 24 hours.

18. Become committed to the success of the people in your network.

19. Approach each contact and opportunity with an open mind.

20. Keep your network in the forefront of your thinking.



• Social gatherings (Meetups)

• Over the phone

• Job fairs

• Place of employment

• Seminars

• Association meetings

• Religious affiliations

• Workshops

• Volunteer events

• Internet social networks

• Industry conferences

• Educational institutions



• Neighbors

• Friends

• Co-workers

• Family

• Clients

• Anyone within three feet of you

• Vendors

• Local business owners


Written by: Marc Scoleri